30 Days of Kink: Day 22

Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?

Communication! Dear gods, communication. Your dom/sub/whatever can’t read your gorram mind! If you don’t like the way I am topping/bottoming, tell me flat out. Giving me subtle hints as to what you really want doesn’t work. I don’t do subtle! (And no, this doesn’t differ from a vanilla relationship)